Visiting Sweetie 4 on Thursday evening  didn’t go so well.  She wound up leaving the visit asking  demanding  for me never come back , saying that she would refuse my visits. I have to say, that had never happened before in any of our visits.  So this was new.  It wasn’t without trepidation that I returned to visit this a.m. She wasn’t… (more…)

An “Ah-Ha” Moment

Peace VS. Chaos After our visit on Thursday evening, we were discussing the events that lead up to incarceration, and what things are like now. As predicted, Sweetie 4 was fine. She appeared to be calm and was smiling when we came in.  She was asking about granola bars that she likes and was a little worried she might not… (more…)


Tonight we will be visiting with Sweetie 4 at the detention center.  I have not seen her since Monday.  We  don’t know what to expect, other than the usual smell of the center when you walk in, the heavy doors, the buzzer that locks you into a room and the glass window that divides us and keeps us from being… (more…)

So There Is This Boy…. :)

The Sweeties are getting older.  Sometimes I miss the days of this:    But these days are precious too….They are just the beginning of more change. 🙂 AND CHANGE THERE HAS BEEN…. There are now “Homecoming Dances” and respectful requests to talk to “Dad”….. And pictures with good friends And special friends….. Daddy is still very special…. 🙂 And he still… (more…)

Order to Apprehend

Yeah, that is a fancy way to say there was a warrant issued for Sweetie 4’s arrest.  She was apprehended at school today. Once again, Sweetie 4 has found herself in the middle of turmoil, drama and incarceration. We are at a loss for words.  The only thing a parent can do if a child is dead set on destruction, is cry out… (more…)

Sweetie 2 Had Surgery

(This video is from  5 years ago, but it is one of my favorites. She danced for my birthday) Many of you know that two of our Sweeties are amputees.  Sweetie 2 has a below the knee amputation of her left leg.  She is an amazing athlete, dancer and daughter. 🙂 She has grown SO MUCH!  She wasn’t expected to… (more…)


Hey There Dear Reader, Apparently for a long time there had been problems with making comments.  I do believe that is fixed!  Yea!  If you are a reader, please feel free to leave comments! 🙂  I enjoy hearing from you.

Keeping Your Feet On The Ground…. When Everything Is In The Air!

Sweetie 4 is continuing her spiral downward once again.  It is so very hard to watch.  And it is something completely out of our control.  The choices she continues to make, may land her back into juvenile detention for awhile. But you know what?  We are at peace with how we are trying to guide and help her.  As her… (more…)


What a trail we have plodded in the last year and a half!  Sweetie 4 began to spiral out of control about that long ago.  Since then, we have been building a team to help us navigate through the tough job of parenting a child with such a difficult background, who is struggling with mental health, behavioral, hormonal, esteem, and… (more…)

A Visit From Alex

At our kick off meeting for Adoption Support Group, Alex Krutov came to visit.  He shared with us from his heart and we are so thankful to have had the honor to have him speak to our little group. He also spent some time talking to the Sweeties after the meeting. If you don’t know Alex, you really REALLY should… (more…)

Catching Up

Well, school has been in full swing for about 7 weeks and the girls are all doing well.  Testing has begun for sweetie 4 at the local high school to make sure she is getting the proper supports. She has been able to keep herself out of detention for the last 10 weeks! We have a great support team at… (more…)


Hey There folks…. I have been locked out of my blog for awhile due to some glitch and computer problems. I finally had time to get the problem solved, so I’m up and running again!  Whew!

Simple Lessons For Healing #1

I am planning to write a series of life lessons that we have used over the years to help our girls.  This one was actually from today. If you enjoy it, or use it, please leave a comment and let us know how it worked in your family! I designed this object lesson (a spinoff from an old marriage counseling… (more…)


We planted 2 fruit trees about 12 years ago in our front yard.  One of them died and the other one lived.  It was a pathetically sickly little tree for its first few years, and then it seemed to have deeper roots.  Every year it would blossom, but all the blossoms would fall off prematurely, and there was no hint… (more…)


Parenting children who come from very hard places is not an easy feat!  We are making GREAT progress!  Sweetie 4 snuggled in tonight and expressed herself well!  She is working hard. So PROUD of her! And I am so proud of her sisters for pressing into family! We will ALL make it through, learning and growing along the way! I… (more…)

A Celebration!

Friday, we celebrated Sweetie 3’s 9th Anniversary!!!! She is such a precious girl.  She came home at almost 8 years old from a special needs orphanage in Ukraine.  Her journey has been nothing but miraculous! Sweetie 3 is blossoming into a beautiful young woman and let us know that she will be voting in the next election! WOW! That puts… (more…)

Sometimes There Are No Words

I was thinking about a title for this.  All I could think of was, “Devastated”  or “Shattered”. But those words are without hope or purpose, though they may be used to describe feelings we have had the last few weeks and certainly the feelings of Sweetie 4. I feel that I owe an explanation for my lack of writing in… (more…)

What Goes Down, Must Come Up or…..

Up the Down Stair Case. 🙂 “Mommy, will you sit with me?” “Sure sweetie, would you like to relax and watch a movie?” “Ok”…. So we picked a nice “snuggle” movie… “Arachnophobia”! 🙂 I remember when that movie came out in the theater, Mike took our oldest son, who was 13 at the time and DYING to see a scary… (more…)


So last night, when Sweetie 4 came home from school, I let her know that her paperwork arrived from the doctor. He approved her to try out for track and field!  She has been looking forward to this for weeks, and has been asking and asking,”When is he going to send the letter?” It came. Her reaction was just as… (more…)

Sweetie 4 Turned 15!!

Our 4 year anniversary is quickly coming up (March 2nd) and Sweetie 4 has turned 15!  She is far from the little girl we picked up in North Carolina 4 years ago!  So much has happened! She is growing up!!! Her bio sister and brother in law came down and surprised her for her birthday. It was really fun! I… (more…)

I’m Back

It has been a really difficult month and a half.  We have had illness and I am in a new situation. My mom has Alzheimer’s disease and is now in a memory care center.  She is pretty advanced, but is doing well. Over this month, I came across a DVD I wanted to share. It is called “Meltdown” by Debra… (more…)

New Year, New Thoughts

It has been an amazing year, and here we are in 2015! Where did the time go?  We had a wonderful holiday season, and will be celebrating Ukrainian/Russian Christmas, by having a traditional  meal on Wednesday evening, with dear friends. I have had so many thoughts going through my head these past few weeks, but have not been able to… (more…)


I remember teaching Awana a few years back. I was teaching my favorite group, the “Sparkies”. It is such a great name for Kindergarten to 2nd grade. They are kind of like little “sparklers”, all over the place, but if you aim them in the right direction, they just sparkle and shine.It was Christmas time, and we were of course… (more…)

Holiday Time

We hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving!  We had a great time with Uncle Bob, and our extended family.  What a fun day! It was really nice to see Sweetie 1 enjoy her birthday this year! She has always dreaded holidays and birthdays,  but this year she looked forward to it! She even asked to go to Razoos and… (more…)

Stretching and More Stretching

The girls entered College, High School and Jr. High this year.  It is a year of stretching and learning for all of us.  It is good! Some of the new social settings have been a little shocking. We were pretty “protected” in our little cocoon of love, and the girls have been exposed to some realities that are out there.… (more…)

A Right of Passage

Sweetie 3 took her driver’s test to get her permit yesterday. She passed! That means, mama has to come out of retirement from teaching children to drive, and start all over again! Honestly, I wanted to pass it all over to Mike, but I know that isn’t realistic; though he will take his turns. This a.m. we went to ta… (more…)

Sweetie’s Choice

Many years ago, when Sweetie 4 was 7, she was removed from her tiny village, along with her brothers and sister and placed in an orphanage. She said that was the first car ride she ever remembered. Sweetie had a very tumultuous life, but she didn’t really know that, because it was all she knew.  There was a serenity about… (more…)

NEW BOOK by Dr. Daniel Siegel

The new book is out, and it is fantastic!  The title is “No-Drama Discipline”. This book puts together in practical form that anybody can understand the concepts of relationship based, trust based parenting! I pre ordered it a while ago and it arrived today. I cannot put it down! My husband is reading it too. If you buy any books… (more…)


As you all know, Sweeties 1, 2 and 4 are in Public school now, and Sweetie 3 is home schooling and doing dual college credit classes at our local Jr. College. Everybody is doing really great! Sweetie 4 however, does have anxiety over doing well at school. She is a bit of a perfectionist so I hear things like, ”… (more…)

Memory and Trauma

Sweetie 3 is attending college this year as a 16 year old. She is doing well, and her first class is Russian.  She has been studying Russian for a couple of years, but is now at the level of conversational Russian, in college! Today, she mentioned that while she was listening to “Conversational Russian”, she had an emotional feeling, “Like… (more…)


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