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Veteran’s Day Tomorrow

And, guess who is going to be in the ceremony?  Sweetie 2!  🙂  This is her 3rd year in AFJRROTC  and she is really looking forward to leading her unit.  Each year the veterans in our area are honored at the ceremony and there are still men from World War 2 and the Korean war  who come. I was watching her march… (more…)

Meeting At The School

Sweetie finished all her testing right before she went into detention, so we had a pre ARD meeting yesterday at the school.  We had such a great meeting.  The plans that will be set into place when she returns to the school will start from least restrictive and if she handles that well, they will remain, if she can’t they will… (more…)


Visiting Sweetie 4 on Thursday evening  didn’t go so well.  She wound up leaving the visit asking  demanding  for me never come back , saying that she would refuse my visits. I have to say, that had never happened before in any of our visits.  So this was new.  It wasn’t without trepidation that I returned to visit this a.m. She wasn’t… (more…)

So There Is This Boy…. :)

The Sweeties are getting older.  Sometimes I miss the days of this:    But these days are precious too….They are just the beginning of more change. 🙂 AND CHANGE THERE HAS BEEN…. There are now “Homecoming Dances” and respectful requests to talk to “Dad”….. And pictures with good friends And special friends….. Daddy is still very special…. 🙂 And he still… (more…)


Hey There Dear Reader, Apparently for a long time there had been problems with making comments.  I do believe that is fixed!  Yea!  If you are a reader, please feel free to leave comments! 🙂  I enjoy hearing from you.

A Visit From Alex

At our kick off meeting for Adoption Support Group, Alex Krutov came to visit.  He shared with us from his heart and we are so thankful to have had the honor to have him speak to our little group. He also spent some time talking to the Sweeties after the meeting. If you don’t know Alex, you really REALLY should… (more…)


Hey There folks…. I have been locked out of my blog for awhile due to some glitch and computer problems. I finally had time to get the problem solved, so I’m up and running again!  Whew!

I’m Back

It has been a really difficult month and a half.  We have had illness and I am in a new situation. My mom has Alzheimer’s disease and is now in a memory care center.  She is pretty advanced, but is doing well. Over this month, I came across a DVD I wanted to share. It is called “Meltdown” by Debra… (more…)


I remember teaching Awana a few years back. I was teaching my favorite group, the “Sparkies”. It is such a great name for Kindergarten to 2nd grade. They are kind of like little “sparklers”, all over the place, but if you aim them in the right direction, they just sparkle and shine.It was Christmas time, and we were of course… (more…)

Holiday Time

We hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving!  We had a great time with Uncle Bob, and our extended family.  What a fun day! It was really nice to see Sweetie 1 enjoy her birthday this year! She has always dreaded holidays and birthdays,  but this year she looked forward to it! She even asked to go to Razoos and… (more…)

The Countdown to School!

It is just five days before school starts! FIVE!  And guess who was diagnosed with Pneumonia today?  Whaaa! Sweetie 4! Thank goodness we were able to get her in to see her doctor on short notice.  She is on 2 kinds of antibiotics and hopefully she will be mostly recovered by the time Monday rolls around! We are still practicing… (more…)

Beautiful Days

These past few weeks of summer have been wonderful.  We have been enjoying the down time and relaxing before school starts up again. This year is going to be very different! We will now have 1 girl in part time college, part time home schooling. 2 girls will be attending High School, and our youngest, will be attending 8th grade… (more…)

A Compilation of Humor Over The Years

A compilation of our lives together. Here are some things I have recorded over the last several years: We were talking about some church issues with the girlies. We attend a Reformed Church, so one thing I asked the girls: “What does reformed mean?” Kristina , as always, excited to answer: “It means like, everybody there has problems!” Like, we… (more…)

Networked Blogs

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Easter Time

Happy Resurrection Day!!!

A Picture Of Grace Based Parenting part 2

A Picture of Grace Based Paretenting pt 2 “What Happens Next?”  originally written April 2013 Yesterday, I wrote this post <—- (linked)   about Miss Sweetie 4. 🙂 Today, I want to cover “What Happens Next?” What happens after there is repentance and calm has come back into the home?  What happens next,  when a child exhibits old behaviors, or … (more…)

What Are They Trying To Tell Us?

What is going on with our  kids when try to get attention in inappropriate ways when we are talking on the phone or to another adult? Interpreting their behavior is very important to solving the problem! If we assume they are trying to annoy us, it will lead to frustration and unmet need. Children who come from difficult backgrounds have… (more…)

“Be The Flashlight”

  “Be The Flashlight” originally written August 23, 2010 I was thinking over a few conversations related to a Heather Forbes- Bryan Post- Beyond Consequences Logic and Control mindset. Some of the discussion included statements like  “They are off”, or “There is just something wrong!” I think sometimes, what we are afraid of, we attack. So, here is yet another… (more…)

A New Update on Sweetie 4

It is way past time for a Sweetie 4 update. If you followed my private blog, I have kept updates regarding Sweetie 4, since she came home 3 years ago. I have to say…. I have some wonderful news. She has hit a new high water mark in the healing department. 🙂 She seems to be comfortable in her own… (more…)

What Shame Looks Like

WHAT SHAME LOOKS LIKE originally written August 2012 Shame can disguise itself as ungratefulness, an attitude of superiority,  a know it all attitude, or a form of pride. Shame is one of the most common feelings of former orphans. Many of our children believe they do not deserve to have a family, happiness, material gifts or love. Sometimes they will… (more…)

Loving Hands Accepting Hands

Loving Hands…. Accepting Hands originally written Feb 6, 2012 What kind of messages do we give our children when it comes to our body language.  I just wrote a post below on the finger lesson.    Do our hands give the message to our children that they are loved and cherished?  Hands are very important.  We use them often to express… (more…)

The Finger Lesson

  The Finger Lesson originally written Feb 6, 2012 One thing we work really hard on around here is not accusing others.  We try very hard to not “assume” that we know what another person is feeling or thinking. I know that personally, I have been accused of things before, by another person I had never met, and it hurt… (more…)

The Next Step In Healing

The Next Step in Healing Originally written Feb 6, 2012 Yesterday was a hard day, but it was a good day too.  Yesterday showed me how far we have come as a family, and how we need to try harder in some areas in order to progress and not stagnate. This week has been a HUGELY busy week, and it… (more…)

Our Adoption Journey To Ukraine

We are coming up on the 8th Anniversary of Sweetie 3’s adoption.   I wanted to share our journey with you. 🙂 Our Adoption Journey to Ukraine Our adoption Journey was in 2006. Below are the emails we sent from our trip BEFORE THE TRIP Howdy there, The adoption agency called us and gave us the rundown of what will happen… (more…)

Making Sense of Evil

I don’t know if you CAN make sense of Evil. We know it exists.  How do we know?  Because we see light. God has revealed Himself to us through Jesus Christ. In John, it says, “Men liked the darkness more than the light.” Evil, LIKES evil! There are those who’s feet run towards evil. And we are ALL capable of… (more…)


Both Mike and I were thinking about what the word “Trust” means and how it is used in our society.  The funny part is, I was out and about taking kids to the doctor, grocery shopping and more, and he was at home.  We had not discussed it, but when I called him, we both started talking about what our… (more…)


IF I HAD KNOWN IN ADVANCE Originally Written in October 2007 I am now almost 56. 🙂 I was contemplating life the other day. This is my last year of my 40’s. Next year I will be 50. Yep, nobody, NOBODY is considered young when they are 50. That doesn’t mean I can’t look great, or have energy or that… (more…)

The Great Chain Breaker, plus an update

The Great Chain Breaker originally written in December 2008 Update following article…. I remember long ago reading about abuse, alcoholism, and any other ism you want to think of. Psychologists and psychiatrists said, these things run in families, they are disorders, they run in cycles; chances are, if you were abused, you will abuse, if your parents were alcoholics, you… (more…)


What if I were to tell you that a certain sweetie spent her first 4 years rocking back and forth in a crib; neglected, hungry, alone? What if I were to tell you that in her home country, it was not unusual for parents who have children with special needs to leave them at the hospital? What if I were… (more…)

Relationship First part 3

Over the last couple of days, I wrote two diary entries, here and here, that were fiction, but based upon real circumstances. Today, I’d like to write about concepts for both parent and child to be able to come together and heal. The weightier responsibility is on the parent, because parents are there to lead and to guide. I cannot… (more…)


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