Monthly Archives: November 2013

Why Love? Why The Path of Forgiveness?

WHY LOVE? WHY THE PATH OF FORGIVENESS? Originally written in July 2013 Because, it leads to peace and joy! Do you ever struggle with loving another?  What about difficult people? Do you struggle to love unconditionally? If your answer is no, I’d like to meet you in person and shake your hand! 🙂 One of our sweeties was struggling with… (more…)

Lingering Fears- Conversations With My 13 Year Old

It has been 2 years and 8 1/2 months since Sweetie 4 came home to be with us. She is doing awesome and we are so thankful for her progress. A few things that we continue to work on have to do with fear and shame. Many times she will perceive that we are not happy with her or that… (more…)

Human Children! Hello! :)

Human Children! Hello! 🙂 originally written in 2009 I took Sweetie 3 out for a mommy daughter lunch today. I try to take each of our children out once a month for mommy time, and daddy does the same. We went to a restaurant during “off hours” so we didn’t feel rushed and just sat and adored each other. (for… (more…)

So What Do You Do When You Fail?

So What Do You Do When You Fail? BCLC Moments originally written: January 2010 I have heard many people say that in order to parent in a BCLC model, (grace based parenting model)  you have to be perfect. “I could never parent that way, because I am not perfect”. “It is impossible!” These statements, most of the time are based… (more…)

The Distrubring World of the Pearls Parts 1 and 2 and Gluesticks are for Gluing

I have combined 3 separate posts here: Originally written in 2010 and 2011. Lydia Schat’s parents were sentenced to prison for their role in her death. Hanah Williams parents were also sentenced to prison. Why am I posting this? I originally wrote it in 2011.  But I feel it is important. Child abuse happens!  Many people adopt with good intentions,… (more…)

But What About Consequences???

But What About Consequences?? An Alternate Title Would Be…. “What About Punishment?”“If you were pulled over by a policeman, because you were speeding, shouldn’t you get a ticket?” What I DESERVE vs. What I HOPE for, can be very different.  Would you WANT a ticket?  Or would you WANT mercy? I know for me, I would want mercy!  I have… (more…)

So Can Change Really Happen?? REALLY?

So Can Change REALLY Happen?? REALLY? originally written: June 2013 Oh You Bet It Can!   I was casually talking with a sweet lady who said she read a poster in an office that stated something along the lines of “You are your history!” It was suggesting that there is no real change.  If you come from a difficult background… (more…)

Our First Meeting!

We had a really good first Support Group Meeting! If you are interested in coming, we are meeting at “Cornerstone Baptist Church” in Wylie Texas. The 2nd Thursday of each month, from 7-9.

Bob The Cat

Bob is a very well loved Kitty. 🙂  He will be 10 years old on Christmas day.  Sweetie 1 had just been home a few weeks when he came into her life.  She has loved him ever since. 🙂

When The Love Bucket Has A Hole

Originally written in August of 2012 Have you had the experience of a child who wants, wants WANTS  EVERYTHING, yet nothing seems to satisfy their wanton desires? Me too….. The child who has had NOTHING, now wants EVERYTHING and SOME is just not enough,  is a child who has a whole in their love bucket.   It is a tricky task… (more…)

Tell Them They Are Precious

One of the things that we have found with our own children, when they have come into our family, is that they have no idea how precious they are. Instead, because of rejection, in some cases multiple rejections, neglect, and abuse, the idea of being precious didn’t even enter their minds. Instead, they saw themselves as unwanted, unlovable, ugly, and… (more…)

Learning and Reflections

As parents of 8 children, we continue to learn, and learn more. One of the great things about life is, you never stop learning and gleaning. I am so thankful for people who have dedicated their lives to helping children who come from Trauma Backgrounds; or as Karyn Purvis would put it, “kids from hard places”. Mike and I purchased… (more…)

What If They Don’t Respond

I was talking to a couple of folks yesterday about children who have great shame and do not respond well to the slightest of correction.  It will send them into rages. I cannot stress enough how this behavior is a STRONG FEAR based and SHAME based behavior. They are unable to receive correction, because they tie their value and worth… (more…)

I’m Going To Be….

Sweetie 4 was baking potatoes and announced, “I’m going to be the perfect wife!” 🙂

Hard Days Come Before Rainbows

Today is a Rainbow day.  Yesterday, not so much.   Sweetie 4 was convinced that I was mad at her.  I didn’t act mad at her.  I didn’t say anything unkind to her.  I didn’t even raise my voice towards her. But she was convinced! So what did she do?  She worked herself into a frenzy saying I was mad at… (more…)

The Art of Discipline Part 9: Pursuing Relationship

The Art of Discipline Part 9: Pursuing Relationship originally written: October 2012 I was meeting with a dear friend today, talking about discipline and the many facets the very WORD imply. As I have said many times over the years.  To discipline our children, is to DISCIPLE our children; to come along side, to teach, to instruct…. As we were… (more…)

The Art of Discipline Part 6: Reflections on Parenting the Wounded Child

The Art of Discipline Part 6: Reflections on Parenting the Wounded Child originally written October 2012 “My child cannot trust.”  “My child has RAD”.   “My child has PTSD.” (Sweetie 3’s picture from the lake) The answer?  LOVE. This will make some angry.  WHY?  Because when you are in the process of helping a hurting child it is HARD.  You begin… (more…)

The Art of Discipline part 5: Authority

What does AUTHORITY look like in your home?  Is it domineering?  Is it completely missing? Authority structures are very important! Whether you are a single parent or are in a family with two parents, you must be the authority in your home.  The children should not be the ones in control. A child in control, is an out of control… (more…)

The Art of Discipline part 4: Communication

Today I’d like to bring up the importance of communication  between a parent and child.  Communication has everything to do with disciplining a child.  It has everything to do with discipleship and relationship. Communication is one of the most basic tools we have in order to relate to another person. When a child cannot communicate, the result can be very… (more…)

The Art of Discipline part 3: Correction

The Art Of Discipline part 3 Correction originally written September 2012 In the third part of writing about discipline, I wanted to talk about correction.  EVERY child, no matter how wonderful needs to be corrected. And I have never met a child who WANTS to be corrected.  But those teaching moments are the job of every parent to carry out… (more…)

The Art of Discipline part 2: Role Play

The Art of Discipline part 2: Role Play Originally written September 2012 Yesterday, I wrote part one of this series.   I want to cover several areas of discipline and what it looks like in our home. Today, I want to write to you about ROLE PLAY.    I have written numerous articles on the importance of role play. Role play is… (more…)

The Art of Discipline part 1

The Art of Discipline Part 1 originally written September 2012 Teaching our children, instructing , discipling  and encouraging them are all part of the Art of Discipline. As Parents, it is THE biggest thing we will do to influence the next generation.  We are the gatekeepers of the future!  It is a HUGE responsibility to bring up our little ones… (more…)


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