“What Is Your Need?”

We visited with Sweetie 4 last night.  It was a good visit. 🙂
All day, I had been pondering a quote from Dr. Karyn Purvis:
“I have never met a child who can’t come to deep levels of healing, if you understand their need.”

I pondered this for a couple of days and it got me to thinking, “What is her deepest need?”     I need to understand her need!
I WANT to understand her need! I’ve TRIED to understand her need!
So, I decided to ask her.  And I did.

I was trying to imagine the answers she might give.  She has told us many times, “I want to do what I want, when I want, how I want, and I don’t want parents!”
So, that was my own fear of what she might say.

Instead, she was in a rather pondering sort of mood.  I asked her and she seriously thought about it.
And then she said, “You have given me what I need.”  It is just that I didn’t receive it.
She then said, ” But there is another need I DO have!”
“What is it sweetie?”
“Don’t give up on me!  Please, don’t give up on me!”

So here we were sitting there, glass between us, her in orange, us in civilian clothing, talking on a phone, yet connecting in a very deep way.

We won’t give up Sweetie.

5 Responses to “What Is Your Need?”

  1. Hailey says:

    Brought tears to my eyes. How wonderfully sweet that she recognizes and articulates that need. I’m praying for your family.

  2. Keri says:

    This made my heart ache – with joy and sadness. I feel my own girls silently saying that all the time. It was beautiful to read of Sweetie #4 saying that outloud.

  3. Janna Williams says:

    Hi Chrisie, I have been reading your blog for a long time, but have not commented before. However I feel like we’re friends. I,m also an adoptive mom who is older than average. I just wanted to let you know how encouraging this post was for me. Not giving up on someone is something we can all do. Sometimes I feel like I need a different skill set than I have for this job, or my personality isn’t right etc. But, “Not giving up” that,s something I can do. Thank You, Janna

  4. Janna Williams says:

    Hi Chrisie, I have been reading your blog for a long time, but have not commented before. However I feel like we’re friends. I’m also an adoptive mom who is older than average. I just wanted to let you know how encouraging this post was for me. Not giving up on someone is something we can all do. Sometimes I feel like I need a different skill set than I have for this job, or my personality isn’t right etc. But, “Not giving up” that’s something I can do. Thank You, Janna

    • ChristieM says:

      Hi Janna… Thank you for commenting! 🙂
      I know exactly what you mean! This level of “skill set” isn’t easy. 🙂

Comments warmly welcomed!

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