A New Phase

We were doing really well. WERE.
FAS wreaks havoc on families. It is a demon that sometimes cannot be controlled… For some children it effects their bodies, or facial images, for others it has permanent lasting impact on the reasoning in their brain. We have that impact.

Sweetie 4 had decided at 17, her birthday, she would run away from home. She said, “It isn’t you. You are good people. I just don’t want parents.”
She had planned on a very BAD plan. A man… OLDER…. a assistant manager that had been hired to HELP her…. and much more than can be mentioned here.
BUT… THANKS to LOVING brothers and sisters in law, she was able to “run away” to a safe place. 🙂
I am forever greatful to them for helping in a dire time of need.
Her biological brother and sister tried to talk to her, but to no avial.
She is now out of our home. 🙁
We have loved her completely.
She KNOWS it. She has told us she has felt safe with us, and knows we love her.
Her path is going to follow to the beat of a different drummer.
She has a new job, a new location and she still texts “I love yous.”

This has been quite the experience and not one I could have ever expected or comprehended.

Sweetie 2 is home with us, and thriving.
Sweetie 3 is at the dorms but comes home on weekends.

We are blessed…..

IF… all we have accomplished in the lives of Sweetie 1 and Sweetie 4 is that they know we have loved them… That will be enough.
But I can’t help but tell you, I am truly sad.
Because our unconditional love for them, wasn’t enough.
And there is not one thing we can do about it. 🙁

2 Responses to A New Phase

  1. Milena says:

    I am so sorry to read these news. I always read your old blog and marveled at your insight and knowledge. I still do – this only shows how immensely hard parenting hurt children can be – if also insightful people like you come to such a point as with your Sweeties 1 and 4! FAS seems to be one of the hardest challenges there is. My heart really hurts for you and your whole family!

    • ChristieM says:

      Their story isn’t over yet, and I trust in due time, with maturity, things will improve. We will always be here. Maybe not in the same role.
      Well, we will always be their parents, but the relationship will be more like with adult children….
      It is sad, but we have learned a lot.
      Walking hand in hand with the Lord through the storm.

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