Hunger

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Many of our children have experienced HUNGER.  In fact, all 4 of our sweeties at some point experienced hunger, due to pure neglect.
Sweetie 4 has only been home just 2 and a half years.  During that time we have made sure that she has had ample food.  She is free to eat healthy foods whenever she needs them, and we make sure that she has plenty of “comfort foods” as well as nutritional meals several times a day.

Yet, today, she was asking about what was going to happen tomorrow.
“Do I need to bring food with me?”
She is going to her sister in law’s house while we have an appt.
“Are you SURE she is going to feed me?”
These are the questions of a child who has been deprived of her basic needs.
These are the questions of NEGLECT.
It breaks my heart to hear her fear.
But I am SO GLAD she is ASKING with her words, instead of “acting out” in her fear.

Tomorrow will be a key part to her healing.  She will find out, that her sister in law loves her enough to feed her!
She will know that her needs will be met.  And we will also send a few snacks with her. 🙂

4 Responses to Hunger

  1. Aus says:

    Food – the “classic” symbol of a child with trauma in their background!

    But we MUST remember that frequently our kids know hunger – REAL hunger – like “where is my next meal coming from” kind of hunger – not the “I missed a meal” hunger!

    But they also know a hunger of the heart…and that’s the wound that takes longer to heal – and in particular when they are young they mistake that for a need for food.

    Let them hoard – if you would – HELP them hoard (and pick not perishable stuff for them to hoard!!) – and you just might be meeting both needs – it just might make them feel like they won’t be hungry – and more importantly that they can TRUST that you will meet their needs!

    hugs – great stuff – how did she do?

    aus

    • JJ says:

      Yes, how did Noelle#4 do today???

      • ChristieM says:

        She did great! She brought snacks with her, and Becca made sure to feed her well. 🙂
        She had a wonderful time and wants to do it again!

    • kyhtak says:

      I appreciate your thoughts, Aus, about HELPING kids “hoard” (non-perishable) food. I spent some time in an EE country a few years ago, and had a lot of interaction with a family who had adopted several children. The parents told me they had to keep locks on all cupboards containing food, to “keep the kids from ‘stealing'” food out of them.

      At that point, I was clueless! (The adoptive father was American, the adoptive mother was a national of the country in which the family lived.)

      I like your approach ever so much better!

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