Saying “I’m Sorry” A Wonderful Tool!

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Did you know that one of the most important things you can do for your child, is to own your own mistakes?  Admitting mistakes or wrongs will not make us appear to be weak, it will actually reflect that we  human, flawed and broken, just like our children.

There is never a question of “If ” we are going to blow it, but “when” we are going to blow it.  There are ZERO perfect parents and the quest for perfection is not achievable this side of heaven.
However, God even uses our flaws and errors to help facilitate healing in our own children.
In our weakness, HE is made strong!

Our children are very willing to forgive when we simply say, “I’m sorry honey. I didn’t handle that well.”

Today, Sweetie 4 was still a little worried about what happened yesterday.
She studied my face over and over and asked “Mom, are you upset? Are you mad?”
“No honey, I’m not.”  “Why do you ask?”
She was looking at my brow….. it was furrowed.
(I have not felt well today)
I went in the bedroom and looked…. and you know what?  I did look sorta mad, even though I wasn’t.
I had to explain to her that I wasn’t feeling well and that I need to make an effort to put on a better expression!
“I’m sorry honey… I didn’t mean to worry you!”
We snuggled and I said, “I’m here for you honey, I’m listening to you.”
Comically, she said, “I don’t really have anything to say!” LOL
So we silently snuggled and connected.

There have been times in the past where I have been upset and allowed that to spill onto my children, and I’m sure that time will come around again. :/  My own window of tolerance does shut now and then.  I remember one time Sweetie 3 saying, “Looks like your window is closed mama!” LOL

In times like that, the best tool we have in our tool box is “I’m sorry, will you forgive me?”
In all the years we have parented, we have never had a child say, “No, I will not forgive you.”
And they have come from some very, very tough, and traumatic backgrounds.
So put it in your tool box! It is Powerful! 🙂

Comments warmly welcomed!

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